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Wednesday, August 22, 2007

Creating Your Own Reality

I have had the opportunity during my 25 year career to meet thousands of people from all over the world and I have found two things to absolutely true time and time again regarding people no matter what their background, education or social status in life.

First, is that the more optimistic a person is the more successful and healthy he or she is likely to become.

Second, is that both optimism and pessimism tend to be self-fulfilling prophesies. Our reality becomes what we expect it to be.

There is a circular self-feeding loop of human nature that you can use to your advantage. For example, a woman who lacks confidence can acquire confidence by an act of will and convince herself with confident action and self-suggestion that she is confident.

This change in her thoughts and actions will produce a corresponding change in the way other people respond to her, which reinforces her original act of will. In effect, the world proves her right and her own certainty increases because objective, concrete events have proven that her confidence is justified.

Negativism works the same way. For example, a man with indigestion caused by stress may worry about the pain, further increasing his level of stress and making his indigestion worse. Since his pain is worse, he is even more worried, which makes the indigestion even worse.

Faith and doubt work the same way. When a person doubts his ability to succeed, he lowers his energy level because he feels defeated before he starts, and he impairs his health, which further lowers his energy level.

A lower energy level limits his progress, which causes him to doubt even more, further depleting his energy. Because of the self-defeating nature of the feedback loop, doubt makes success less likely.

Conversely, if you assume that your efforts can and will succeed your assumption helps create the fact by making you more energetic in the pursuit of your goal, giving you robust vitality and health.

Because you feel more energetic, you take confident strides forward, and you make more progress. You can then see that you are gaining on your goal which validates your assumption that you can succeed. This, in turn, gives you more confidence that you will succeed, which makes you even more energetic.

Faith is the starting point for creating your own reality. When you have faith that you will succeed, your faith that you will succeed, your faith feeds itself, building and growing as you make progress. The result is a positive self-fulfilling prophesy.

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