Build Your Own World

People seek happiness in many different ways. They often seek it frantically as they would search for something they have lost. They're looking for something, that's very clear, but the best way to find something is to try to remember where you put it in the first place.

Many people have become unhappy about life solely and completely because they are not in control of their life. This is where you find the people who are most unhappy and even miserable. Life is moving along and controlling them.

On the other hand when you find someone who is happy, cheerful and strong, then, that is a person who is in control of his or her life. People who are in control of their own life are the happiest, whereas people who let life control them are generally unhappy.

Let's say for example that a young woman growing- up dreams of being married and having a nice home and family. She dreams of having a loving husband who would come home from work at night, she'd have dinner ready and the family and every aspect of their life would be happy.

Then one day she actually does get married and things don't work out as she had dreamed of. Her husband often comes home late, doesn't want to talk about anything with her, and life is not so happy. Somehow the light and laughter have gone out of the marriage.

What should she do? Should she get out of the marriage?

Well there are many things a person could do in this situation, and the least of them is to take a look at the environment. You look around and orient yourself in your environment; see yourself for what you are and where you are, and then try to make things better. The day when you stop building your own environment, when you stop building your own surroundings, that's when things cease to be happy.

In short, you look for happiness where you are, in what you have, by making where you are and what you have better. By beginning to build your own world with your own hands and mind you will find that you will, at the same time, be building your own happiness.

If you've been doing this, then, you know what I mean. Seemingly out of air, with nothing more than your mind and hands, you shape happiness and meaning where before there was nothing. It's as though you took a barren unattractive plot of ground and turned it into a beautiful garden.

This does not depend on whether or not you consider your environment good or bad only what you do with it.

The formula for happiness is: To take control your own life, don't let it control and dictate to you. Take whatever it is you now have and with your mind and hands make it somehow better. Sounds simple, doesn't it? It is. Most things in life are, we just have a way of making them more complicated than they are.